The boys somehow, mostly remember the not so nice things that I say. And manage to forget all the other wonderful, meaningful, praise , kind and sensitive things I say. Words matter and its stick real close to their heart. I don't want them to grow up and say "Mum hardly said anything nice to us, Oh she was so negative all the time". "And what about all that instructions and orders she barked at us all the time?"
What can I do to overcome that and make sure they have good memories of the things we say as parents?
How do I become a parent who uses words of encouragement, words of praise and wisdom. Words of kindness and love?
Though we have to be careful of going over the top with praising them. Strike a balance in complementing them in things they do. I heard somewhere that if we wear three rubber bands on one hand, we needs to have all three of them moved to the other hand by the end of the day. We move each one of them, when we have complemented them, or praised them for something they have done. Three good things. Now , we can say three things. That easy. Ya, right! You'd think so. I tried it and it was hard the first few days.
Praise is sort of a feedback for kids. We want to build their confidence and give them positive meaningful praise for the things they do.
I have to choose the incidents or those things to let go for the greater good. Avoiding to nitpick at every little thing. Imagine hearing ourselves, if all that we say throughout the day was recorded. Shasta a great place to start in realising the way we use words, not only with our children, but spouses and others around.
What can I do to overcome that and make sure they have good memories of the things we say as parents?
How do I become a parent who uses words of encouragement, words of praise and wisdom. Words of kindness and love?
Though we have to be careful of going over the top with praising them. Strike a balance in complementing them in things they do. I heard somewhere that if we wear three rubber bands on one hand, we needs to have all three of them moved to the other hand by the end of the day. We move each one of them, when we have complemented them, or praised them for something they have done. Three good things. Now , we can say three things. That easy. Ya, right! You'd think so. I tried it and it was hard the first few days.
Praise is sort of a feedback for kids. We want to build their confidence and give them positive meaningful praise for the things they do.
I have to choose the incidents or those things to let go for the greater good. Avoiding to nitpick at every little thing. Imagine hearing ourselves, if all that we say throughout the day was recorded. Shasta a great place to start in realising the way we use words, not only with our children, but spouses and others around.
Powerful quote..
ReplyDeleteYes .. when I thought of it... I had shivers down my spine.....How our words can break or mould our children
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